Adab Speaking, Arguing and Hearing Opinions
Adab SPEAKING 1. All talks must be good, (QS 4 / 114, and QS 23 / 3), mentioned in the hadith the Prophet SAW: "Those who believe in GOD and the final day then let say good or better still." (Bukhari Muslim) 2. Talking should be clear and correct, as in the hadith 'A'ishah: "That the words of the Prophet Muhammad was always clear so it can be understood by all who hear." (Abu Daud) 3. Balanced and long-running away from the solution, based on the words of the Prophet SAW: "Actually I hate most people and most distant from me later in the day of Judgement is a lot of people talk and act in speech." So said: O Messenger of Allah we have to know the meaning of ats-tsartsarun and mutasyaddiqun, then what is the meaning of al-mutafayhiqun? So the prophet PBUH said: "Orang2 snob." (Reported by Tirmidhi and dihasankannya) 4. Avoiding a lot of talk, because khuatir boring to hear, as in the hadeeth narrated by Abu Wa'il: Ibn Mas'ud ra is always teaching us every Thursday, then said a man: O ash Abd (Ibn Mas'ud title)! If you want to teach us every day? Then Ibn Mas'ud said: Surely no one stop me fulfill your wishes, I only worry about boring you guys, because I will never ask such a prophet PBUH and he said we were worried boring (HR Muttafaq 'alaih) 5. Repeating the words are important if needed, from Anas that the Prophet Muhammad SAW when talking then he repeated it 3 times so that all who hear it to understand, and when he came home SAW SAW someone then he was saying hello 3 times. (Bukhari) 6. Avoiding false to say that, based on the hadith the Prophet SAW: "Indeed a servant to say one word that GOD Almighty blessed that he did not think that would get so, so noted by the Almighty GOD HIS keridhoan for that person until later on the day of Judgement. And a man say one word of wrath, not GOD Almighty that he thought would be the case, then GOD Almighty that such records until the day of Judgement. "(Reported by Tirmidhi and he said: hadith hasan saheeh; also narrated by Ibn Majah) 7. Away from the heated debate, based on the hadith the Prophet SAW: "It is not a people astray after getting guidance for them, but because too much arguing." (Reported by Ahmad and Tirmidhi) And in another hadith mentioned the words of the prophet Muhammad: "I can assure you based home paradise for those who avoid the debate even though he was right, and I guarantee a house in the middle of heaven for those who avoid falsehood even in jest, and I guarantee a house in heaven for a good top akhlaqnya." (Abu Daud) 8. Stay away from evil words, denounced, cursed, according to the hadith the Prophet SAW: "It is not a Mu'min if you like denouncing, say mela'nat and cruel." (Reported by Tirmidhi with a saheeh isnaad) 9. Avoiding a lot of jokes, based on the hadith the Prophet SAW: "Indeed the worst side of GOD Almighty in the Day of Judgement will is the person who likes to make people laugh." (Bukhari) 10. Avoiding disgrace to tell people and call each other by a bad title, based on the QS 49/11, also in the hadith the Prophet SAW: "If anyone tells you something and then he went, the story was a mandate for you to guard it." (Reported by Abu Dawud and Tirmidhi and he menghasankannya) 11. Avoid falsehood, based on the hadith the Prophet SAW: "Signs of hypocrite that there are 3, if he lied to speak, if he promised to deny and if given the mandate he is treasonous." (Bukhari) 12. Avoid backbiting and provoke them, based on the hadith the Prophet SAW: "Do not envy one another, and do not you guys hate each other, and you do not say anything nasty to each other, and you do not avoid each other, and do you mutually ghibbah to one another, and be servants of GOD who are brothers." ( HR Muttafaq 'alaih) 13. Careful and fair in praise, based on the hadith of the Prophet Muhammad Abdurrahman ibn abi Bakrah from his father saying: There's a praise others in front of that person, then the prophet PBUH said: "Alas! Ye have hurt your brother! You've hurt your brother! "(2 times), then he SAW said:" If someone wanted to praise others in front of him, say: Enough of the so and so, may GOD mencukupkannya, we did not purify one side of GOD, and then say as fact. "(HR Muttafaq 'This is lafzh alaih and Muslim) And of Mujahid, Abu Ma'mar said: Standing one's praises in front of an official Miqdad ibn Aswad is exaggerated, then sand and menaburkannya Miqdad take in the face of it, then said: The Prophet ordered us to sprinkle sand in the faces of people who fond of praise. (Muslim) Adab HEAR 1. Shut up and pay attention (QS 50/37) 2. No cut / cut off talks 3. Exposes the face on the speaker and do not look away from it all in accordance with Shari'a (not to speak with the opposite sex) 4. Does not interrupt his brother even though he already knew, all was not saying sin. 5. Not feeling in his heart that he knew better than to talk Adab REJECT / DISAGREE 1. Sincere and avoid the nature of love being the center of attention 2. Away from the famous and famous want to 3. Rejection must remain respectful and gentle and not raised his voice 4. Rejection must be filled with arguments and taujih 5. Avoid the occurrence of intense debate 6. Should begin by conveying the truth first before commenting on the wrong 7. Rejection does not contravene the Law 8. Things should be discussed are essential and can be implemented and not something that has not happened 9. When the refuse should be taking into account the level of knowledge the speaker, not to speak beyond the capabilities of the speaker, who fear a trial for themselves and their religion 10. When the refuse should keep the heart is clean, and avoiding hatred and liver disease. Wamaa taufiiqi illaa biLLAAH, 'alaihi wa tawakkaltu ilaihi uniib. picked from http://www.al-ikhwan.net/index.php?
Adab SPEAKING 1. All talks must be good, (QS 4 / 114, and QS 23 / 3), mentioned in the hadith the Prophet SAW: "Those who believe in GOD and the final day then let say good or better still." (Bukhari Muslim) 2. Talking should be clear and correct, as in the hadith 'A'ishah: "That the words of the Prophet Muhammad was always clear so it can be understood by all who hear." (Abu Daud) 3. Balanced and long-running away from the solution, based on the words of the Prophet SAW: "Actually I hate most people and most distant from me later in the day of Judgement is a lot of people talk and act in speech." So said: O Messenger of Allah we have to know the meaning of ats-tsartsarun and mutasyaddiqun, then what is the meaning of al-mutafayhiqun? So the prophet PBUH said: "Orang2 snob." (Reported by Tirmidhi and dihasankannya) 4. Avoiding a lot of talk, because khuatir boring to hear, as in the hadeeth narrated by Abu Wa'il: Ibn Mas'ud ra is always teaching us every Thursday, then said a man: O ash Abd (Ibn Mas'ud title)! If you want to teach us every day? Then Ibn Mas'ud said: Surely no one stop me fulfill your wishes, I only worry about boring you guys, because I will never ask such a prophet PBUH and he said we were worried boring (HR Muttafaq 'alaih) 5. Repeating the words are important if needed, from Anas that the Prophet Muhammad SAW when talking then he repeated it 3 times so that all who hear it to understand, and when he came home SAW SAW someone then he was saying hello 3 times. (Bukhari) 6. Avoiding false to say that, based on the hadith the Prophet SAW: "Indeed a servant to say one word that GOD Almighty blessed that he did not think that would get so, so noted by the Almighty GOD HIS keridhoan for that person until later on the day of Judgement. And a man say one word of wrath, not GOD Almighty that he thought would be the case, then GOD Almighty that such records until the day of Judgement. "(Reported by Tirmidhi and he said: hadith hasan saheeh; also narrated by Ibn Majah) 7. Away from the heated debate, based on the hadith the Prophet SAW: "It is not a people astray after getting guidance for them, but because too much arguing." (Reported by Ahmad and Tirmidhi) And in another hadith mentioned the words of the prophet Muhammad: "I can assure you based home paradise for those who avoid the debate even though he was right, and I guarantee a house in the middle of heaven for those who avoid falsehood even in jest, and I guarantee a house in heaven for a good top akhlaqnya." (Abu Daud) 8. Stay away from evil words, denounced, cursed, according to the hadith the Prophet SAW: "It is not a Mu'min if you like denouncing, say mela'nat and cruel." (Reported by Tirmidhi with a saheeh isnaad) 9. Avoiding a lot of jokes, based on the hadith the Prophet SAW: "Indeed the worst side of GOD Almighty in the Day of Judgement will is the person who likes to make people laugh." (Bukhari) 10. Avoiding disgrace to tell people and call each other by a bad title, based on the QS 49/11, also in the hadith the Prophet SAW: "If anyone tells you something and then he went, the story was a mandate for you to guard it." (Reported by Abu Dawud and Tirmidhi and he menghasankannya) 11. Avoid falsehood, based on the hadith the Prophet SAW: "Signs of hypocrite that there are 3, if he lied to speak, if he promised to deny and if given the mandate he is treasonous." (Bukhari) 12. Avoid backbiting and provoke them, based on the hadith the Prophet SAW: "Do not envy one another, and do not you guys hate each other, and you do not say anything nasty to each other, and you do not avoid each other, and do you mutually ghibbah to one another, and be servants of GOD who are brothers." ( HR Muttafaq 'alaih) 13. Careful and fair in praise, based on the hadith of the Prophet Muhammad Abdurrahman ibn abi Bakrah from his father saying: There's a praise others in front of that person, then the prophet PBUH said: "Alas! Ye have hurt your brother! You've hurt your brother! "(2 times), then he SAW said:" If someone wanted to praise others in front of him, say: Enough of the so and so, may GOD mencukupkannya, we did not purify one side of GOD, and then say as fact. "(HR Muttafaq 'This is lafzh alaih and Muslim) And of Mujahid, Abu Ma'mar said: Standing one's praises in front of an official Miqdad ibn Aswad is exaggerated, then sand and menaburkannya Miqdad take in the face of it, then said: The Prophet ordered us to sprinkle sand in the faces of people who fond of praise. (Muslim) Adab HEAR 1. Shut up and pay attention (QS 50/37) 2. No cut / cut off talks 3. Exposes the face on the speaker and do not look away from it all in accordance with Shari'a (not to speak with the opposite sex) 4. Does not interrupt his brother even though he already knew, all was not saying sin. 5. Not feeling in his heart that he knew better than to talk Adab REJECT / DISAGREE 1. Sincere and avoid the nature of love being the center of attention 2. Away from the famous and famous want to 3. Rejection must remain respectful and gentle and not raised his voice 4. Rejection must be filled with arguments and taujih 5. Avoid the occurrence of intense debate 6. Should begin by conveying the truth first before commenting on the wrong 7. Rejection does not contravene the Law 8. Things should be discussed are essential and can be implemented and not something that has not happened 9. When the refuse should be taking into account the level of knowledge the speaker, not to speak beyond the capabilities of the speaker, who fear a trial for themselves and their religion 10. When the refuse should keep the heart is clean, and avoiding hatred and liver disease. Wamaa taufiiqi illaa biLLAAH, 'alaihi wa tawakkaltu ilaihi uniib. picked from http://www.al-ikhwan.net/index.php?
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